By Carly Cantor
There are many benefits when one makes the decision to reinvent their being, but I also believe there are many cons. Usually it depends on your motive behind changing, and that motive can lead to a positive or negative outcome. For example, if somebody who has done many wrongs in the past decided to attempt at being a better person then that would most likely lead to a positive outcome. Yet, if somebody else who has done mostly good had decided to “turn bad” then I suppose that would lead to a negative outcome.
Endings can also depend on the people around you. Those people may also influence the decision in the first place. If somebody “good” hung out with “bad” people then staying the same would probably make them feel out of place, and that is one of the many reasons people change for others.
People are often scared to make that change as well, abnormality is a widespread fear among the human race, even if we don’t like to admit it we are still afraid of change. However, when reinventing oneself you make many changes, some comfortable, some not. Take substance abuse for example, one may feel the need for a certain drug but cannot have it or refuse to let themself take it. That is change, an uncomfortable one, but still a positive change nonetheless, at least morally.
Many little changes are what make up the entirety of reinvention. These switches can consist of behavioral actions, physical appearances, and even emotions. As people grow and mature, these changes may simply happen naturally. But sometimes the cause is just wanting change.
A question many ask is, “well, how do I change?” However, I don’t have an exact answer to that. Mainly because it’s not really my question to answer, it’s yours. But, I may be able to help you find it with these simple steps.
- Find the source. Why do you want to change in the first place? Is it something positive or negative? If negative, can you find the root of the negativity? Why do you feel that way?
- Once you’ve identified the source, you must start the journey. Lets look at a positive example, maybe you want to change up your lifestyle. Look for a certain aesthetic and stick with it. That can make the change a lot easier, it’s like playing a character, except it’s you. This exact method could also work for ‘changing for the better’. Essentially, you change how you’re living to help yourself.
Let’s dive more into that. I’m no saint with negative 100 problems, I’m currently on a journey as well. Recently I haven’t felt like myself, the stresses of past experiences and even the present is extremely draining. I feel tired every day, and it frustrates me because I can barely stay awake throughout my school day no matter how early I go to sleep. Sometimes, I don’t like what I see in the mirror, and I criticize myself for things I can’t control. But, despite that, I’m trying my best. I believe that’s the most important part of all of this, trying your hardest to better yourself for you, not for anyone else.
Reinventing yourself doesn’t have to be negative if you don’t want it to be. Personally, I’ve been writing down my feelings. Sometimes I even create stories with my emotions about that situation. I’ve been trying out new styles, staying away from things I’ve identified as problematic to my well-being, and overall trying to be happier. This article itself is part of my journey, and that means you are too because you’re reading it. So thank you for helping me, and I hope I have helped you too.
Sincerely, your friend and local Teen Talk writer, Carly Cantor.